RIP Scott
It's been a few days now since I heard about the untimely passing of my ex-boyfriend and ex-bandmate, Scott Jensen Roy. My current lack of mental acuity is thusly due, and I am pretty exhausted.
Only now that some dust has settled on my shock do I feel able to publicly address this tragedy. The details of what happened are of penultimate importance, and simultaneously totally unimportant. For from this mortal world, he is gone - his memory to survive in our hearts and minds.
I have never lost a friend, or a lover, before, and it is indeed strange, leaving me to feel lost and confused. Scott and I had not been involved or much in touch between 2005-2007, but we shared a big world when we had our band Turkish Queen. Love and music were conflated in the most beautiful and natural of ways. Scott was there when I took the crucial first steps to strike out using my own voice and vision as a frontwoman. He believed in me and he took me seriously.
As a friend, you could really tell him anything. He was a very sympathetic ear. If you were in pain he would feel it with you. He was intensely loyal.
I am proud of Scott for making his way out West, for which he had so long desired. I am thankful to his longtime friend Matt Willis, for helping Scott get there, and being there for him in a way no one else could or would. I am very proud of Scott's personal achievements in the weeks leading up to his death.
I am thankful that Scott and I had been more in touch recently, over the past few months, and that I had the chance to speak with him one week before he passed. In that conversation, he was in a spiritually high place, and it was so good to hear.
It comforts me that his final moments were spent in a peaceful place doing a pleasant summery activity, in his beloved Olympia - near a trail, on a river. He was, after all, a nature boy. He did, however, also love the city life, being such a sociable creature.
I am comforted by Tony and my dear friends at this most trying time. Please say a prayer for Scott, his family, and his friends.
A memorial page with service information can be found at http://pan9factory.org.
Only now that some dust has settled on my shock do I feel able to publicly address this tragedy. The details of what happened are of penultimate importance, and simultaneously totally unimportant. For from this mortal world, he is gone - his memory to survive in our hearts and minds.
I have never lost a friend, or a lover, before, and it is indeed strange, leaving me to feel lost and confused. Scott and I had not been involved or much in touch between 2005-2007, but we shared a big world when we had our band Turkish Queen. Love and music were conflated in the most beautiful and natural of ways. Scott was there when I took the crucial first steps to strike out using my own voice and vision as a frontwoman. He believed in me and he took me seriously.
As a friend, you could really tell him anything. He was a very sympathetic ear. If you were in pain he would feel it with you. He was intensely loyal.
I am proud of Scott for making his way out West, for which he had so long desired. I am thankful to his longtime friend Matt Willis, for helping Scott get there, and being there for him in a way no one else could or would. I am very proud of Scott's personal achievements in the weeks leading up to his death.
I am thankful that Scott and I had been more in touch recently, over the past few months, and that I had the chance to speak with him one week before he passed. In that conversation, he was in a spiritually high place, and it was so good to hear.
It comforts me that his final moments were spent in a peaceful place doing a pleasant summery activity, in his beloved Olympia - near a trail, on a river. He was, after all, a nature boy. He did, however, also love the city life, being such a sociable creature.
I am comforted by Tony and my dear friends at this most trying time. Please say a prayer for Scott, his family, and his friends.
A memorial page with service information can be found at http://pan9factory.org.
posted by Ajda the Turkish Queen at 8:12 AM
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